I have seen many people in my generation who believed that they had earned every right to all the luxuries in life, and when they do not get their way, they would rant and complain about how life is not fair. Truth be told, life is not fair to begin with, and yet, we believe that money falls from the sky when we ask for it.
Yet, I do not think we are quite as demanding and lazy as society thought us to be. I will confess that being in your twenties is perhaps the most terrifying decade of your life. I mean, being a twenty-year-old means dealing with lots of life challenges such as dealing with the lack of enthusiasm at work, monitoring your finances and fending off the social pressure to be part of the flex culture. Over time, they can be pretty overwhelming, and we would usually voice our frustration through occasional ranting and complaining, which I can relate with. However, have you ever paused for a moment to truly appreciate the hardships you experience?
A Job, Even Though It Is Not Our Dream Job
Being a part of the group of twenty-somethings means dealing with the stereotype that we are a bunch of lazy human beings who despise all job opportunities that does not fit the job profile that we envisioned. Although how this stereotype came to existence in the first place remains a mystery, this is an absurd assumption to make.
“Every job you do, you gain more experience. You never stop learning.”Joanna Cassidy
The reason being many of us do not have the luxury to earn a degree from a prestigious university. So, we have to grind harder at work just to get even with the group of university graduates. Indisputably, it can be very upsetting to be perceived as a lazy worker when in fact, you are working like a dog for a below-average salary every month. However, there is a bright side to this story that you are missing out on.
You should appreciate the experience that comes with every job that you accepted. Whether your work requires you to work overtime occasionally or only takes up four hours of your day, you learn something valuable out of that experience. You are learning how to expand your skillsets, how to sell yourself and behave professionally during turbulent times. Those experiences are rarely found in student jobs or the lecture halls. However, these are crucial talents that pay back considerably as you develop your career. Focus on your duties and see every failure as a learning opportunity to become a better version of yourself.
Time We Have Between Graduation and Our Envisioned Future
Everyone is unique because the time between earning our degrees and eventually living the future we dreamed of for years is different for everyone. It is especially difficult to remain patient if your ideal career requires you to obtain a few years of work experience before being admitted to a university, where you must then spend a few more years obtaining a prestigious degree. And even upon graduation, you may have to spend a certain number of years performing entry-level work in that field before you finally get to where you want to be.
Most of us will probably be in our early thirties by the time we earned stability in our careers, which is disappointing since most of us assumed that having a university degree means we have guaranteed ourselves a fulfilling career upon graduation.
Given the vast amount of time these hurdles remain with us, it is easy to take for granted some of the fantastic opportunities that follow. However, let’s approach this situation from a more inspiring angle. During this time, you will be gaining plenty of skills that will serve as the foundation of your successful career. It is also a period of time when you are permitted to explore different career avenues and fail repeatedly. Appreciate this privilege while you still can.
Yourself. Specifically, Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
We live in a society where competition between each other is never-ending. Competition between organisations, regardless of their nature, is a mirror image of our human behaviour to always be better than others. Let’s face it; there will always be more successful, career-driven, and more stylish people than I am. These people are obsessed with making their careers shine (bright like a diamond) and, along the way, earn big bucks to sustain their lavish lifestyles. Although I am not even close to their energy levels (which makes me look like an individual who has no dream of being successful in life), that is fine by me.
Instead of feeling jealous or sabotaging other people’s success (and yours), we should be proud of their accomplishments. It can serve as an inspiration to us, and also, being connected with like-minded, ambitious people can influence us to be more motivated in our pursuit of success. Put your selfishness and just be happy for them for the sake of being happy for them. You may feel some resistance when doing this initially, but as you put this mindset to work more frequently, it gets easier with time, I promise.
Generations before us can label us however they want, but we know ourselves best. We are not a group of individuals who spend most of our time complaining about how we are not getting what is rightfully ours. Unquestionably, there is a lot to manage when we are in our twenties. However, we are more than capable of seeing the bright side of things when times are not in our favour.