Every human being carries a sense of vulnerability that is derived from the fundamental emotion of fear. Fear makes us feel insecure. It makes us feel anxious and uneasy. When we are so comfortable with our current environment, we do not think about challenging it because (1) we are stubborn organisms and (2) we fear the uncertainty that lies ahead. Together, it incapacitates our ability to step outside of our comfort zone in our twenties. Do not fear to say “no” to or walk away from a distressing situation. These are the years to be spent wisely so that by the time you enter your thirties, you know what you want out of life.
It takes extraordinary courage to be stand out from the ordinary. People will question your decision but fuck them. Your life, your choices. However, if you are someone who needs extra juice, here is a couple of tips for moving beyond your comfort zone.
1. Be Confident But Whatever You Do, Do Not Be A Show-Off
Venturing beyond your comfort zone gives off the impression that you are showing your courageous and confident side. However, be mindful that being confident and being a show-off are two separate and distinct behaviour. Being confident can, at times, be a difficult characteristic to adopt. In order to present yourself confidently, it sometimes will come out the best when you do something that you are nervous as fuck to do.
The difference between being confident and being a show-off is the way you present yourself to the world. Showing off with the aim to deceive will give the impression to others that you are just being an asshole. From my viewpoint, everyone wants to have confidence in everything they do.
2. Confess That You Are In The Wrong
“Not admitting a mistake is a bigger mistake.”Robert Half
The idea that everyone is flawless and has no shortcomings is absolute bullshit. I have said this before, and I will say it again: No one is perfect.
Confessing you are wrong and accepting your shortcomings is undoubtedly difficult because doing so means swallowing your ego. Truth be told, it is supposed and should be that difficult. In this time and age, we overlooked the fact that our lives are not always picture-perfect as Snapchat stories make them seem, don’t we?
We have our times at work or in a relationship where we were not really accepting the idea of confessing to our mistakes. It is all right if you have misinformed your client or colleague. Those acts of wrong will make us communicate wiser and thus, ensuring that you would not repeat them. You might be disappointed when they occur, but eventually, you will be grateful and brush it off like a speck of dust on your shoulder – believe me.
Being a twenty-year-old means you have to learn to come to terms with the mistakes that you have made. Those who do not know remember the mistakes of their past are bound to repeat them in the future. Therefore, you have to embrace the power of making mistakes in order to propel you to where you want to be in life.
3. Be A Risk Taker
Many are easily intimidated when they must do some risk-taking. Instead of navigating through the risk, most of us run away from it. Here is the thing: there is nothing wrong with taking the risk with an idea and going with it. Chances are, those risks will evolve for the best because you trusted your intuitions. When you followed your guts, those risks will turn out for the right reasons.
“Living at risk is jumping off the cliff and building your wings on the way down.”Jim Rohn
Stepping beyond your comfort zone could be learning how to swim at long last or emigrating to another country. Being a twentysomething means you have ample energy to try out new things. Make use of it. These are the years to grow and flourish because we will be in our thirties in a blink of an eye.
By taking a risk (be sure it is a calculated one, too), you are exposing your vulnerabilities but ready to stand firm and inch your way to the top.
4. You Do You
Do not be terrified of the idea of being yourself. It is difficult in specific situations, such as at a new job interview or meeting your girlfriend’s parents for the first time. By the time you are accustomed to these situations, your tendency to put up a false image complete fades away.
“There’s nothing wrong with being yourself.”Jacob Batalon
There are times when we switch to “people pleaser” mode. The majority of us cannot avoid it, no matter how hard we try, which is understandable; we live in a society where many people take things at face value too seriously and hence, to preserve the peace, we have to put on a false face. People-pleasing is a typical behaviour among twenty-year-olds because we seek validation and approval from everyone around us.
I say, however, it is time to ditch that shitty behaviour and start living our lives our way. It takes a certain level of courage to ask yourself whether you can live with the idea of possibly offending people by being yourself. Honestly, no one cares if you do you. Moreover, nothing is normal – so you do you and do what makes you smile.
Final 2¢: The Worlds Beyond
We human beings have this psychological tendency to place more weight on negative thoughts than positive ones when we are about to do something that we have never done before. You will have lots of “What if” questions before you take the plunge. However, just do it, ask later.
Do you always want your biggest mistake to be the one you never made? No, right? So, while you have the time and energy, get off the couch and start doing something uncomfortable now rather than later. Why settle for what you are today when you get to create who you want to become in the future?