Now that you have found an intimate partner to hang on with almost daily, you are thrilled and could not be any happier. A relationship can be an excellent addition as you are building your jigsaw puzzle that is life. You are no longer #foreveralone, and you and your partner are working together to develop a loving and lifelong connection.
“If you can learn to love yourself and all the flaws, you can love other people so much better. And that makes you so happy.”Kristin Chenoweth
As beautiful and exhilarating the connection may turn out to be, preserving who you are in a relationship can be a difficult effort to sustain. You spend so much time putting plans together, dating and catering to your partner that it may start to feel like your true identity is being chipped away bit by bit.
It can be a terrifying experience, yes. However, here is my word of advice: never lose yourself while you are in a relationship. You should be nothing without them and everything with them. Not many people are aware that having a healthy relationship is one of life’s most authentic and actual luxuries.
Keep in mind that the most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Understand yourself. Love yourself. Do not dive into a relationship just because you want to fill the voids that you have in your heart desperately or because you think that your life would better if you have someone who will listen to your rants. The duty of healing your old wounds falls on you. When you decide that you want to be in a relationship, respect yourself and your partner that you are in the right time and state of mind to do so.
Staying connected with your own personal interests is an excellent way to ensure that you are still your most genuine self while in a relationship. Do your best to not forget about the activities and hobbies that you engage in that you are passionate about and are an expression of your personality. Having mutual interests is great and all, but it is completely fine to keep certain things separate for yourself. Accordingly, do not be scared to take the time for yourself. You do not have to dedicate all your time to your partner. Give time for yourself, hang out with your loved ones and high school friends, Make space for yourself.
“Self-love seems so often unrequited.”Anthony Powell
Should you feel like you are being choked or feeling lost in the relationship, convey them to your partner. I cannot stress the importance of open communication in a relationship enough. It is vital that you and your partner have open and no-secret-between-us communication. You may not be the only one in the room feeling this way, and perhaps you and your partner can come to a middle ground on how to keep the relationship going without arguing with each other every waking moment of the day.
As much as we human beings would like to love and be loved, your relationship with yourself always takes precedence. Once you have a good idea of how to appreciate and love yourself, you will understand how to spread that love to another without losing yourself. Respect the things that define your partner’s individuality. Never forget who you are, what makes you awesome and immerse in those things each time you have the chance.