From the day you both met for the first time, you could tell there were stars in each other’s eyes that you both can paint the dark sky with together. This person is adorable, hilarious, appreciative and has almost (because no one is perfect) all the qualities of the ideal forever person. Your first date turned out fabulous, as did the fourth and fourteenth, and every date after that. Out of nowhere, you begin to question whether you indeed have found your forever person.
It is an interesting notion – your lifelong partner, the one being with whom you are destined to spend the rest of your life. However, discovering “the one” is not as easy as it sounds, and it is not unusual for people to think about whether or not they have finally found “the one” again.
Love is a double-edged emotion; it makes you strong and vulnerable at the same time. If you think love is a horrifying idea to think about, you can forget about marriage because the latter represents a significant upgrade from love. If you are about to spend the rest of your life with another person, you must be certain that you have absolutely found “the one.” Everyone has a different definition of “the one,” making it difficult to precisely pinpoint who to spend your life with. That being said, below are several vital signs to watch out for, which can inform you if your relationship can last forever.
1. You feel comfortable spending time with your lover.
We all have had relationships that make us feel tense or nervous. You had to behave in a way that garners the acceptance of your partner. Believe it or not, this kind of relationship can actually offer you long-term benefits. For instance, these relationships will open your eyes to who you truly are. Nonetheless, I can assure you this: when you meet the love of your life, you can throw away the idea of presenting a false image of yourself and be true to yourself.
When you are with “the one,” you do not hesitate to show your weird side or wear your most ridiculous stay-at-home outfit. Regardless of current circumstances, you will live life knowing that you do not need to lose part of your identity when you are next to your partner. If you observed that sharing your awkward childhood stories with the love of your life is as easy as breathing, you most likely have found “the one.”
2. Your lover supports and wishes to make your dreams come true.
If you have found true comfort in spending time with your partner, ultimately, you will want them to be the first to know about your aspirations and the goals you have set for yourself in life. Unfortunately, this can be a daunting mission to accomplish; your dreams are very personal, and disclosing them to your partner indicates that you are lowering your guard and thus making yourself vulnerable to their criticisms and, potentially, harsh judgements.
Disclosing your dreams to your lifelong partner, however, should not force you to reassess your lifelong goals. If your partner really loves you for who you are, he or she will be your pillar of support till the end. So, whether your lifelong dream is to build a successful e-commerce enterprise or become a best-selling fiction author, your forever person will stand by your side from the start.
3. You want your lover to know your loved ones and friends in your life.
While many within your circle might view your partner as your “significant other,” chances are, your life has more than one significant relationship. Your family members, high school friends and others who have helped you get this far in life–and so, when you have found your lifelong partner, you will want to let the town know about your lover.
If you see yourself hyped to implant your lover’s name in everyone’s mind, the probability of this relationship being significantly different from the previous ones is high. Introducing your lover to the people who already reside in your network of people is a healthy sign that you want your lover to stay put for some time, perhaps forever even.
4. You both know how to settle quarrels.
There is no such thing as a relationship in which arguments are non-existent. Regardless of the type of relationship, there will be times when you both are holding each other’s throat, metaphorically speaking. Because of this, it is crucial to recognise how you and your lover deal with quarrels. If you are going to spend the rest of your life with your partner, you both will need to develop a mechanism that eliminates tension in the relationship fairly quickly.
When you are with the love of your life, arguing is about addressing issues instead of competing to see who is right and wrong. You both will need to take responsibility for mistakes in the relationship, treat each other with respect, listen to what the other has to say attentively and learn to move on instead of keeping the argument at heart. Yes, it may be difficult (some married couples even have to seek the help of a marriage counsellor to come up with ways to avoid similar heated instances), but if your partner is really the one who is meant to be with you for eternity, you may feel more obliged to offer it a chance.
5. You see your lover’s happiness as your top priority.
This is somewhat humorous. Most of us resort to love because we want nothing else in this world besides happiness. However, once love is found, we soon learn that we do not put ourselves first. Specifically, we do not give our happiness our utmost attention. When you find “the one,” you may find that his or her happiness is your one and only priority. You are more than willing to make trade-offs and get things done for them just so they smile. Fortunately, your lover’s smile will automatically make you smile and feel good about yourself. If he or she is indeed your partner for eternity, he or she will do everything he or she can and will invest as much time as necessary to put a smile on your face.