When you think about your network of friends, who is the first one that comes to mind? What about them that convinced you that they are worth having forever? Is it their personality traits, and if so, what are they like? Which circumstances or interests fuel the fire that keeps your friendship alive? The answers to these questions can be as clear as day and otherwise.
That phrase can be interpreted in many ways because everyone thinks differently. For me, it means that one should strive to develop a tribe of friends who inspires you to aim high, encourages you to make your dreams come true, and shows no hesitancy to challenge you. Do not feel guilty for getting rid of people who intend to dampen your spirits or dismantled your efforts.
1. The Honest One
Honesty is a rare gift. Moreover, it takes strength and courage to be honest when the news is not what you want to hear. That being said, this friend is perhaps the most valuable of them all. They will not hold back to tell you upfront what you must listen to, no matter how sour their words are.
Undoubtedly, digesting the truth can be quite brutal because we are hardwired only to accept things that are within our expectations and strengthen our public image. No one wants to sit through a conversation about how their relationship with their significant other will not work out (even if they already know it beforehand).
Although the facts can be painful to hear, know that honest friends are also the most compassionate ones. They care more about your well-being than your hate towards them for the disheartening words they have uttered.
You must have someone in your life who is not scared to emotionally wound you because, let’s be sincere, people in the real would not hold back to tell you like it is.
2. The Adventurous One
We all have that one friend who introduces us to things that we never knew existed. If you have a worldly bud, you can be confident that he or she will encourage you to explore new cuisines, share plenty of helpful travel tips with you, and inspire you to have a greater appreciation of one of mother nature’s most precious gifts: diversity.
This is a friend who will drag you out of the house when all you want to do is to stay in and have a Big Bang Theory marathon on Netflix. They will not hesitate to recommend new books and music. Plus, they will educate you that there is more to life than working a 9–5 job and what is on the Internet combined.
3. The Flexible One
No, I am not saying that you should have a gymnast in your core group of friends. What I am highlighting here is the need to have a friend who will always show up for just about anything.
This is the spontaneous one whose attention comes to life upon receiving news that an adventure is coming. This is that one friend who will meet you without giving you a heads-up for a drink.
This person is a core component of your network of friends. Why? Because they will educate you on how to loosen up and the value of being a dependable friend.
4. The Ambitious One
If we are to write an essay about this person, we will describe the extraordinary amount of energy and enthusiasm he or she has. This is that one friend who you shamelessly admire because he or she has a penchant for living life to the fullest, and nothing can stop him or her from succeeding at his or her life goals.
This friend, who is an overachiever, is an integral part of your friendship because they will educate you about your worth and share with you helpful time management tips, as well as patience and self-discipline. Of course, having notable figures in your life as role models is acceptable. But, then again, you should have someone in your immediate life who you can converse with and look up to.
5. The Long-Standing One
This is the best pal since high school. This is that friend of yours who has knows you deeply. He or she has spent enough time to understand how you interact with the world when you are happy and when you are sad.
However, let us not forget that while having friends is crucial to satisfying our social needs and ensure the integrity of our well-being, we need to practice being good friends to others. As social creatures, we are highly dynamic and do not continuously satisfy the identical role in each bond we possess.
Every relationship between two beings is distinctive. For example, in one relationship, you might play the role of a flexible friend. In another, you might play the role of an honest cop who makes sure that the person you value does not make a mistake detrimental to his or her overall well-being.
To all the twentysomethings out there, when all is said and done, cherish your friendships and be a good friend yourself.